Building your child’s Self-Esteem – Let not ‘Shame’ knock you down
There should be a time when every one of us will remember the moment we were a kid and your teacher punishing or even pointing a finger at you and there begins that burning hot sensation and embarrassment episode. Your kid can be alarmingly mischievous or talkative and may be warned or punished for such and there will be a time that they will learn something odd and that feeling is Shame. Even as an adult everyone must have felt the shame when credit card declined or missing on deadline and it goes on. It is a great deal for parents to help kids in not giving up and building self-esteem. Shame is a powerful way to motivate our kids’ behavior but beware it has an almighty sting in its tail which can be crippling for our kids’ self-esteem. Giving a positive sense of oneself is the best thing parents can ever do to their children.
Kids with self-esteem feel liked and accepted and it evidently boosts their confidence in trying new things. It makes them feel proud of what they can do and they are optimistic in most lifeways. Above all, they believe in themselves. Self-esteem help kids cope with their mistakes and encourage them to try again even if they fail at first. As a result, self-esteem helps to build children’s social behavior and helps kids do better at school, at home, and with friends.
Kids with low self-esteem feel unsure of themselves. If they think others won’t accept them, they may not join in. They may let others treat them poorly. They may have a hard time standing up for themselves. They may give up easily, or not try at all. Kids with low self-esteem find it hard to cope when they make a mistake, lose, or fail. As a result, they may not do as well as they could.
Self-Esteem develops as early as babyhood. It begins when the child feels loved, safe and accepted. It may begin when the baby or toddler gets enough positive attention and loving care. As babies become toddlers and young children, they’re able to do some things all by themselves. They feel good about themselves when they can use their new skills. Their self-esteem grows when parents pay attention, let a child try, give smiles, and show they’re proud. As kids grow, self-esteem can grow too. Any time kids try things, do things, and learn things can be a chance for self-esteem to grow.
Parents can build your child’s self-esteem by helping few things on their own depending on age. When teaching, show them and help them do it. Appreciation should be wise because praise is equally harmful and it may backfire. Don’t overpraise; be honest and encourage your kid to improve. Also, don’t only focus on results; the work and effort your child puts in are equally important. Harsh criticism can affect the kid negatively and the comments they hear about themselves make them believe what they are. Harsh comments are not motivating and are harmful. It is essential to focus on their strengths than weaknesses and that will give more chances to develop their behavior and strengths. Helping and what they do to others or how they behave to others matters. Helping and kind acts build self-esteem and other good feelings.
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